July 25, 2007

Secrets Revealed

My friends - it's time for secrets to be revealed and if the new ticker above didn't already give it away, I would like to share with you that we have decided to pursue a simultaneous adoption. Without going into tons of details about logistics and permission, etc. - we have applied and have been approved to adopt from Ethiopia. We are requesting twins, and have asked for a boy and a girl. Because of the structure of the Ethiopian process, we are pretty sure our request will be met. (gulp!)

We are in no way stepping away from our adoption of Keira from China - but with the ever increasing wait, we simply had to take steps to pursue building our family while we wait. Otherwise, Keira was going to be an only child - and that was all the reality we needed to take action.

It is important to point out that we did not come to this decision lightly and we did take all the necessary steps to make sure we would not be removed from the China program, or lose our place "in line" as it were. We also made sure to find an Ethiopian agency willing to help us even though we were pursuing another adoption. All the homework was done in advance, and all the important bases were covered.

I also want to point out that we assume based on trends and the wait-time getting longer and longer, that we have a good year or more until our referral for Keira arrives. So sad to accept, but simply true. We made sure to choose an adoption process that would be the most friendly to our current China process and one that would cause the least amount of (if none at all) interruption - draw your own conclusions on the timeframe.

We are applying for two infants, as young as possible. They are typically infant stage leaving Ethiopia - there are very few toddlers available for adoption. A totally different experience to be sure.

I am happy to answer specific questions, so if you have one - feel free to post it and I'll do my best to answer if I can.

We are very proud and happy with our choice, and we have been very fortunate to have both sets of our parents offer their blessing for our decision. To be honest, we both (and our parents) had a moment of sadness - when you realize that Keira won't be the first child/grandchild home, as we planned. When you spend two years planning something and then the plan changes abruptly, it's kind of scary and it certainly takes getting used to. I had my moment where I cried in Keira's room - but then I just took a breath, squared my shoulders, and realized that God probably always intended for it to be this way. He knew she would be our "late-bloomer" and so he had us start the process when he did for a reason - he always knew it would take this long. Meanwhile, he's been working on both of our hearts for our children in Africa for quite some time. I could tell you the God-moments we've had leading to this choice, but it would take all night. Truly, this whole process has been inspired and we're just glad we're finally getting to walk through the doors He's opened.

I am sure many of you are open-mouthed! I can't emphasize enough how much we appreciate your support and friendship - and how much we love being a part of the amazing community of adoption. It has truly changed our lives! Just having my M3 Posse by my side during this decision making and knowing they've got my back with the whole "twins" prospect....YIKES....has made these past few weeks, even past couple years amazingly better and more bearable! I could not do it without all of them! My bloggy friends have sweetened the road even more...

We feel honored that God has placed this task ahead of us, and that He has designed our family specifically to be so diverse and blended. We both feel that God has given us the tools necessary to be adoptive parents, and that this path was chosen for us long before we even knew one another. Adoption has become such a big part of our lives and we are so glad that we were called down this path. Many times we think that, had the Lord chosen to give us biological children, we would never had walked this road - and then think that we could have missed this wonderful journey. These thoughts occur to us even before we have been able to experience the joy our children will bring.

It is our sincere hope that in your love and friendship, you will support our new journey with the same zeal that you have all shown on our journey to Keira Joy. We so need your prayers and support as we make our way through yet another adoption process, and this time for two! In the picture below - we were sending off our application for adoption. Stamped "Approved" officially as of today!

As so many of you already know, in the adoption process there are many variables and many things can change. From time to time, I may have to update our information - whether it is the wait time, delays, name changes, or gender changes - even whether or not God actually has twins in store for us - but I will make every effort to update as we walk this new road. We have all learned to take each day as it comes through our adoption journeys, and also to prepare ourselves that things can change all the time. Flexibility is key! Don't we all know it?!?!

As it turns out, if we do receive our request for twins, and we think we will - consider this: by the time our twins are about a year old, we will be going to get Keira from China . Because of the approximate age of babies referred from China - she will probably be about 10 months to a year. This equals virtual triplets for us! YIKES! Did I mention we would be needing lots of prayer?!?!

Love and hugs,
Christie & Anton
(and the future "triplets"? - gulp!)

PS - Don't forget to check out my new links to the left for Ethiopia and to take my poll above! Of course, there is a whole other community us "China Adopters" haven't even seen...it just never ceases to amaze me!

22 comments :

amy said...

HOw awesome is this! Incredible!! I am praying for you and cant wait to see your family grow!

Your blogging friend

amy

a&mg said...

Wow, that is so incredible! I am so thrilled for you and very excited to follow you on BOTH journeys! Congratulations!

Catherine said...

Congrats!!! I can tell from your post that this is a decision that you've made bathed in much prayer. Looking forward to learning more about Ethiopia adoptions through you. I love to see how countries are both similar and different in their process. Following along with you for both your adoptions!

Blessings, Catherine

Stacy said...

This is absolutely AMAZING!!! I am so happy for you both. I can't wait to follow you on this journey! TWINS?!?! I hope all of your dreams come true!

Wooo Hoooo!!

Erin said...

OK, while Mollianne is in school, I'll just come live at your house and help with the twins. How does that sound? I'm so excited for you and Anton. Much love and can't wait to meet your children! Love you!

Doris & Dan said...

I am so happy for you! What an amazing 2nd journey this will be. Please keep us updated. I am sure that this was hard but now that you have made it, I wish you a happy heart and a quick wait.

Keep smilin!

Ni Hao Mama said...

Christie,
You and Anton rock! I feel so excited for you both, and proud for some wierd reason. I know I'm not your mom, why do I feel proud? Don't know, but I do! You said you're open for questions, so can you give more details on a possible time table? It sounds like it could be very soon. I am going to start praying IMMEDIATELY! We are so very excited! I hope you will share all of the details, it's so fun to be a part of it, and I have found with our adoption journey, it enriches the experience for you as well. I am so excited!!!
Dena

Andrea said...

Yippee!! I am thrilled for you!! I too am pursuing a concurrent adoption. Can't wait to see how your new path works out. Congratulations!!!

Elise said...

Christi.....I am so EXCITED to hear your news finally! What an amazing year this will be. If you start getting nervous about having virtual triplets just watch the show Jon and Kate Plus Eight on TLC...you will think 3 is a piece of cake;) You both will be in my prayers...can't wait to follow this new journey:)

Anonymous said...

Christie and Anton,
So very very happy for you two. I think it is terrific. Is it similar in cost to adopt from Africa? I can't wait to see my new great niece and nephew! Is is great or grand?, hmmm either way it is Great and it is Grand!! Love you guys!
Deany

Kelley said...

This is such an awesome blessing for you and AB...and for those who love you! We are thrilled and can't wait to welcome your children to the M3 Crew. I'm looking forward to sharing this journey with you!
Love,
K.

Isabella's Mommy & Daddy said...

YEAH!!!
I have chills all over.. I am soo happy for you both.. This is going to be so exciting..
I am so wishing you get twins... I have always wanted twins. .but then to have triplets... YEAH...
How fun..
CONGRATS...
Kim

Cindy said...

AHHHHHH!!!! OMG This is so awesome!! Congratulations!!! I can't wait to see THREE referral pictures from you guys now!!! WHEEE!!!!!

Paul & Robyn: said...

Of course you know we are so excited for ya'll. Can't wait to experience this adoption with you also.

I am so glad you were finally able to tell the world.

Love ya!!

Beverly said...

Congrats. I would so go for another if I could afford it. I didn't want Glenys to grow up as a single child. Twins would be awesome.

Beverly

Shelli said...

I am so excited for the both of you. Congratulations! I can't wait to hear more as things develop.

Shandra said...

Fellow DFW-ite here. I am so happy for you. We will keep you all in our thoughts and prayers.

Valerie said...

Congratulations! You know you have my support while you embark on this amazing journey of love and discovery.

V

JoAnn in NJ said...

Congratulations on this BIG decision!

I am personally thrilled for you, the twins and Keira Joy! Wish I could adopt another one, but DH said it's not in the cards for us.

Your family will be interesting and lively. Can't ask for better than that!

All the best!
JoAnn in NJ

tracy said...

That's the most exciting news I've heard! Can't wait to watch this journey unfold! Your going to have a hoppin' home for sure!

Anonymous said...

I am so inspired! We are LID 3/27/06 to China and have been talking about Ethiopia (either now or after our current journey) I would love it if you could email me the Ethiopian agency that is letting you do both at the same time as we have been feeling a stronger and stronger knocking on our hearts for this. Thanks!
Suz
craftsbysooze@hotmail.com

Mya said...

Christie,
WOW! That's amazing news!Congrats to you both! (I am still catching up in the blog world) I can't wait to watch this journey unfold as well! Boy, is it going to be exciting X's 3!