May 17, 2010

Well, in the words of my Mother In-Law...

..."don't take it personally, people who spill negativity onto others are usually the most miserable and unhappy people themselves"

She's right.  We need to pity them.  For real. 
Translation:  Screw it.  I'm not shutting down the blog or going private.  So haters can kiss it.  

Lovers can gimme sum' sugar.  Right?

It's been a couple weeks of reflection(ish) time.  Minus the huge loss to our family a couple weekends ago...which seriously took the wind out of my sails for pretty much everything for a bit.  

So after my mini-break, here's what I think:

I need a blog makeover.  Stay with me.  It's a good thing to clear out the cobwebs, update the pictures, get a new look, new colors...you know, a really good makeover.  Like the one I have, which I love, only more current.  And I'm waiting on some pics from the prof. photographer, so when those come back, I'll be ready to go.  I started making my own design, and it was sorta crappy OK, but I got tired of it, and I want it to look super-fly.  Cough. I'm so old, I was trying to be all cool and say "super-fly" right there...and you see, it doesn't work.  I just sound old.  Boo.  Anyway...

I'm going to start watermarking pictures of my kids.  So that will help with the pilfering and pillaging of my babies photos. Second, if you're family and you want them, e-mail me.  

I'll keep moderating the comments as always, and maybe once in a while, I'll post them so that you nice followers can eat the anonymous posters alive.  Ahem. No, seriously.  Because I don't have the energy for it.  But maybe you do?  And I think I'm coming from a place where meanness just for the sake of being mean is so beyond my comprehension...I just don't have the words.  To attack someone...why?  Does it really make them feel better to belittle or judge or say cruel things - hoping their hurtful message will shock me into a "change" they feel is appropriate?  Really?  A stranger?  Come on now...isn't it easier not to read the blog?

Anyway...you want the truth?  I was so moved by the outpouring of e-mails and comments you all left me for 1. how I was feeling about the blog and 2. sweet Kaleigh passing, that I think I realized...it is silly to let the few nastys out there have that much power.  Just silly.  We'll just up the security and keep on truckin' - mmmkay?  Because as much as I love to write and whittle away my evenings putting my heart on here, you seem to really enjoy reading it.  And that touches me.  A lot.

So let's keep dancin', shall we?  I've got good things to write if you've got time to read them...

xo




28 comments :

Carrie said...

Good for you, Christie!! ;)

Janine said...

Some sugar from Janine!

Jill said...

I am SO PROUD of you and your new attitude!! YOU GO GIRL! I feel honored to keep following!

Behind you 100%, and no worries...I got your back! ;)

Wendy said...

all I can say is YES!!!!

Marie-Claude said...

Christie,
So glad you're staying. And yes, we'll have words to support you. You write beautifully, it is a pleasure to read.

Marie-Claude :)

Jodee Leader said...

Whooo hooo! So glad to hear the great news! In my opinion, the negative anonymous readers can just "click away!"

Hope you have a great week!

Shannon said...

Sounds like a great plan. So sorry about your precious pup. I love the pretty picture posted today. It makes me feel happy.

Nicole Beurkens said...

I'm so glad you're going to continue with the blog - I love reading it!!
Nicole

Kim said...

Glad to see you are going to keep on writing. Hope your heart is healing bit by bit over Kaleigh.

Holly said...

Hooray!!! :)
Funny how reading the blogs of total strangers endears them to you!
I actually found myself thinking about you and your Kaleigh girl last week and getting teary eyed again. So. Hard.
I too wonder at why people bother to continue reading a blog they apparently so dislike or are so vehemently opposed to.
Makes NO sense.
Just goes to show that some people? Have no life.
Okay, I can talk right? Cuz I don't waste hours on blog reading.
oh wait. Yeah. I do! But I like to think of it as ENRICHING :)

Jen said...

Glad you are going to keep writing. I have followed your blog for a couple of months. I found you through the Baker's Sweets. My husband and I are considering adopting a little girl from China. I really appreciate your honesty.

Sheryl said...

yay!!!

Brandi said...

I'm so glad to hear the blog will stay open. I love reading whatever you choose to write...you have such a way with words.

Cate said...

Naysayers suck! Does that count as sugar?

Lacie said...

YEAH! You are staying and I am grateful!

You make me laugh.
You are a talented writer.
Your kids are adorable.
I have already learned a lot about motherhood from you.
I get excited whenever I see that you've posted anew!

(Anew..wow, I guess it is a word...huh.)
PS SO SO SO sorry about Kaleigh. My dog is my furry child and reading about Kaleigh made me cry. I hope that you are doing better and are heading towards peace.)

funnylittlepollywogs said...

YEAH! You are staying and I am grateful!

You make me laugh.
You are a talented writer.
Your kids are adorable.
I have already learned a lot about motherhood from you.
I get excited whenever I see that you've posted anew!

(Anew..wow, I guess it is a word...huh.)
PS SO SO SO sorry about Kaleigh. My dog is my furry child and reading about Kaleigh made me cry. I hope that you are doing better and are heading towards peace.)

Anonymous said...

YEAH!!!!!!!!!!!!

a Tonggu Momma said...

As someone who receives several hate emails every month, I say good on you for not letting them win. Glad you will keep writing... you have a voice we need to hear.

Michal said...

I just breathed a sigh of relief. I have only found your blog recently and your words have helped me so much. I think that you have a real ability to write from the heart and affect others (in a good way).
Thanks for not lettin' the haters win.
Post those nasty anoms anytime and I will fricassee them for you!

sooze66 said...

Happy dance!!!! So glad you are staying up and running, I feel as if we have literally walked the road of a lifetime blog by blog. You are such a gifted writer, I love to stop by and see how it's going. Hugs to you all!!!!
Suz
PS I would still love to know about the downloading info software you have my friend! And we are coming to your area this summer, I am planning on coming by for onion rings, just so you know!

Kim said...

You better not shut down.. I need some honesty like I am..
Love ya..

Mom said...

As your mom, Christie, you know how I feel about anyone, verbally or physically, attacking my kids. I am here to tell you, that you have such a wonderful support system on this website, who depend on your posts. You will never know how many people you will impact through your words, but trust me, it is in the hundreds, if not thousands. You have a very special gift sweetie, and you have so much heart felt words to say, and we cling to every one of them. In our troubled world, it is so nice to have some kind of a lifeline out there that we can cling to and know that there are others out there suffering or rejoicing just the same as us. YOU provide that lifeline for us. Keep writing baby, and thank God that you have so many people that depend on and love your writing. They love you Christie, as do I!!!

Anonymous said...

I'm happy to hear this!

Lisa V

Alicia said...

YAY! I just found your blog a couple weeks ago. I have a couple friends going through the adoption process, and I learned so much by reading through some of your old posts. I am so happy to hear that you are continuing.

Stacey said...

I am so glad your sticking around. Love ya girl, Stacey

Anonymous said...

Yippee!!! (insert loud applause here) Love you girl, please please post the nasty comments so we can all eat them alive, really, it won't be too long before they won't write again!
As family, can this count as email, I tried to copy a few photos the other day only to find out I could not, good I am glad, but now I want some pictures, how do I let you know which ones?
Love you tons and tons
Hope differently, but know, that the heartbreak of loosing your sweet girl is still raw, know that we loved her and know your pain, it is just around the corner for us too. All the fur babies in this family are very loved and very missed when they have to leave.
luv u
deany

The Gang's Momma! said...

yayayayayayayayayayay - I'm doin' the happy dance here! Really, I am.

Coughing and sneezing and congested but a happy dance nonetheless!

Oh, and I was so moved by what you and several other bloggers are experiencing, in addition to some nasty stuff my family members are going through, that I posted about it. ME. I never post about controversy or conflict. But I needed to get it out. And I did.

Sooo glad you are sticking around.

Briana's Mom said...

YAY!!!! I'm glad you are staying around! You are an amazing blogger and you need to stay right where you are. :D