Comment Free

**Note - typically, this is a Comment Free Blog.  However, given that we are doing a year of Challenges from September 2011 - August 2012 - I really wanted to make it easier for my readers to participate and share.  So comments will be turned on for a while on most posts.  

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You might have noticed that there is no place to leave comments on this blog.  There used to be!  But I'm just...{cough}...over it.  Here's why:

I have used this blog first as a place to cry on the shoulders of my readers for a long time.  About the long adoption wait, then about becoming a new mother, and then about becoming a new mother again.  About our journeys around the world.  About our children and parenting them.  I have grown and changed over these years…and I can see that reflected as I browse sometimes through my archives.   But as with all things – I’m entering a season of my life that calls for change.  I still write about those same things - being a wife, a mother, and about my kids – but I just didn't want to censor myself any longer. 

In order to do that I realized I had to let something go…something that is “anti” blogging, if you will.  I let go of comments.  I think as much as I loved them (like, a lot.  like a really lot):

1.  I don’t want to need them.  And sometimes I do.  Sometimes I’m hanging on for your thoughts.  And to be honest, sometimes no one has anything to say about something I might have put a lot of effort into.  And that hurts.  (sensitive, I know...I'm working on it) Sometimes, I’m so worried about what I say that I hold back.  Sometimes I’m so concerned about offending, that I withhold what I really “mean” and skirt around it.  What a lot of work all of that is!  I’d rather just write what’s on my heart, have you read it, and let’s leave it there.

2.  I don’t want you to feel obligated to be “nice” or feel you have to be “courteous” and take the trouble to leave a comment when you and I both know we’re too busy most days.  I read over a hundred blogs – probably yours!  But I simply do not have the time to comment.  I love following your lives, but I cannot take the added time to leave words for each of you.  It’s too cumbersome with a house to run, a job, and two little ones.  And I don’t want you to feel that way about my blog either! For heaven’s sake, I want you to receive.  That’s all.  I want you to be able to come here, read what I have to say, and move on with your day.  I don’t want you to be obligated to me.  I want you to be blessed!

3.  I don’t want to publish disparaging comments for the whole of my readers to see.  I don’t want this blog to be argumentative, and I know that often with spiritual sentiment, things can become heated for those who disagree with each other.   If you are my family or my friend – and you were to write a comment that does not line up with my heart – I would still feel obligated to publish it.  And I’m not going to do that to myself.  I don’t want to.  I love you, but this is not the place for that.

4.  I’m not gone completely – I love hearing from you!  So many times I have been so encouraged by your thoughts and kind words.  If you want to contact me or if a post really speaks to your heart or ministers to where you are in your own life, please e-mail me!

Read this blog guilt free!  I don't need you to "do" anything but show up.  You are not obligated to do much more than sip a cup of coffee and be encouraged...(or laugh with me...cry with me...or even disagree with me)

xoxo
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