tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30044120.post3295045919534340589..comments2023-05-17T06:31:21.236-05:00Comments on Bushel and a Peck: The Ending and the BeginningChristiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09641535226387478870noreply@blogger.comBlogger56125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30044120.post-83254767712929919652011-01-18T09:18:27.919-06:002011-01-18T09:18:27.919-06:00Thank you so much for sharing this. I can't he...Thank you so much for sharing this. I can't help but think that part of the reason God allowed you to go through this is because you seem to have a gift for sharing your experiences in a way that will surely give hope and encouragement to others. With that in mind, I'm planning to pass this along to my sister who adopted her daughter from Haiti a year ago. I'm sure she will relate andAmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00624041673559646823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30044120.post-16592426266653414022010-09-09T02:52:02.207-05:002010-09-09T02:52:02.207-05:00Christie, GIRL!!! You never cease to amaze me wit...Christie, GIRL!!! You never cease to amaze me with your beautiful way of writing. You touch my soul. When your children can one day read this amazing journal, they will KNOW how much you loved them, cried for them and fought for them from the very beginning.<br />You bless me, sister! I know God will continue to bless you and your precious family.<br />Thank you for being so candid and honestRebecca and Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03873491301927518087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30044120.post-12655063661443243552010-03-21T00:45:07.744-05:002010-03-21T00:45:07.744-05:00THANK YOU SO MUCH! I could have written about 90%...THANK YOU SO MUCH! I could have written about 90% of your story word for word. It has taken us months to get where you are as of Part 3. I had a really difficult time when we returned because it seemed everyone had peachy stories to tell...and ours was NOT peachy by any stretch. Many families will be blessed by your words. I just know it. Again, thank you for your honesty. It is needed Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09197186026014863218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30044120.post-78089674031534839722010-03-14T21:47:23.720-05:002010-03-14T21:47:23.720-05:00Thank you so much for sharing your ENTIRE story. I...Thank you so much for sharing your ENTIRE story. I know how hard it is to put it out there; I admire your strength in doing that.<br /><br />My daughter was relatively easy in China, but the first 6 months she was not bonded to me...we spent those nights with very little sleep (horrible night terrors). I was so blissfully in love with her that I didn't recognize that she wasn't bonding Sharihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03734301080820930082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30044120.post-47227778886214625292010-03-14T21:44:33.339-05:002010-03-14T21:44:33.339-05:00I think only parents that have been there and have...I think only parents that have been there and have done that can really understand your words. Before I left for China, i would have thought someone was just being emotional or didn't handle things well. however, i've been there and done that and KNOW exactly what you are writing about. We have been home for 1 year and oh my...what a year. we have 3 bio kiddos and our daughter was 3 Flamingohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00670681123523725076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30044120.post-90027649392916919042010-03-14T11:38:28.811-05:002010-03-14T11:38:28.811-05:00These three posts were amazing and more adoptive m...These three posts were amazing and more adoptive mama's should lay it all out there. It's the only way that some folks will see what a struggle it can be to get your kids and your self into a place of peace after adopting. <br />I tend to not write about the hard times myself. I don't know why, maybe because I am not brave enough to relive it? Maybe because it was 5 years ago? Maybe Michalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09869212261483706065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30044120.post-66423123957289122472010-03-13T19:09:06.163-06:002010-03-13T19:09:06.163-06:00Wow! Reading your blog has been so interesting to...Wow! Reading your blog has been so interesting to me. I think your daughter is from the same orphanage as two babies in our travel group. Those little girls also had a tough time bonding initially with their moms. The other girls (from my daughter's orphanage) seemed so fragile, overly and anxiously attached, delayed and just longing for bonding. I just wonder why? I also realize that I Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14106911497739777113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30044120.post-67524382628066504032010-03-12T23:21:02.668-06:002010-03-12T23:21:02.668-06:00This is such a touching story coming right from th...This is such a touching story coming right from the heart, I appreciate your honesty.<br />When we brought our daughter home from Guatemala she wouldn't even look at us, she seemed terrified, it took months to even get a smile out of her, I did every thing short of standing on my head. I felt so deeply hurt for my daughter, they do go through a grieving process. It's so difficult when youSophiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12939551240745198586noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30044120.post-47310839549986384392010-03-12T17:07:52.733-06:002010-03-12T17:07:52.733-06:00Oh wow, ok I am glad that part of the story is ove...Oh wow, ok I am glad that part of the story is over...the whole time I was reading I was thinking, "Oh please let this have a happy ending!" Thanks for sharing and keeping it real!<br />Blessings!Tinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14523120269614260260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30044120.post-56523550871075009432010-03-12T11:45:12.040-06:002010-03-12T11:45:12.040-06:00I felt many of the same emotions you did/do. Pani...I felt many of the same emotions you did/do. Panic, heartbreak, anxiety, commitment. Our story has some similar threads. Thank you for being brave enough to share yours.Tony and Retthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11918069296531972978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30044120.post-21762544195542823722010-03-12T11:28:12.264-06:002010-03-12T11:28:12.264-06:00Wow Christie, I commend you for your brutal honest...Wow Christie, I commend you for your brutal honesty. It is NEEDED, it is NECESSARY as so many adoptive parents have NO CLUE!! Our first Chinese adoption WAS rainbows and butterflies (like your Quint) but our second was TOUGH and gut wrenching! NOTHING could have prepared us for the emotional turmoil we felt. AND, we thought being adults we would be able to handle it with ease! HA!! It is a seasonJill from Killeny Glenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13639521470702814007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30044120.post-67782491153110630442010-03-12T10:06:58.016-06:002010-03-12T10:06:58.016-06:00Christie,
THANK YOU. Your words are comfort and r...Christie,<br /><br />THANK YOU. Your words are comfort and reassurance to me (and so many others). We have not met our daughter. We are still waiting for referral. I long for her by day, and sometimes at night I am terrified. We have a "good thing" going. We have children already with enough needs to fill our parental plate. What are we thinking? Why would we take such a risk? And yet Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01203583624401719308noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30044120.post-40695491999474646962010-03-11T23:15:32.338-06:002010-03-11T23:15:32.338-06:00The raw feeling in your story touched me deeply as...The raw feeling in your story touched me deeply as we are right in the middle of our own adjustment. We just brought 3 toddlers home from Haiti at the end of January and reality has definitely slapped me in the face. I want so badly to love my kids but most days I can barely stand the sight of them. There is no mother love there yet but I am holding onto the "happy ending" of your storyrubythreadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18347365418238964110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30044120.post-696363259859604512010-03-11T22:02:47.521-06:002010-03-11T22:02:47.521-06:00Thank you so much for sharing the honesty and real...Thank you so much for sharing the honesty and reality of your journey with us. You never cease to amaze me and I was once again blown away. <br /><br />-- kellyKelly & Toddhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11283917977461688191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30044120.post-5833624113644897142010-03-11T19:21:43.932-06:002010-03-11T19:21:43.932-06:00That is an AMAZING story in that it is real. It i...That is an AMAZING story in that it is real. It is not always the case, but it happens, and your feelings were tangible. So real to me. After going through 7 adoptions.....and praying for number 8 - there have been some really raw moments. Grieving, trembling moments that hurt! Moments that you never wish to experience again- except for the sake of following Christ! Moments that everyone "Are These Kids All Yours?"https://www.blogger.com/profile/17946903135252874458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30044120.post-42718017673856309412010-03-11T14:10:04.396-06:002010-03-11T14:10:04.396-06:00Thank you so much for sharing your experience with...Thank you so much for sharing your experience with all of us! ... your writing is beautiful and the story is one that, although painful at times, shows the reality and not the dream. I'm at a point of God revealing to me the dream that I hold onto with adopting and that there is a reality that sometimes and in many ways is so much different than I imagine. There were points of your story I Valerie and Jeffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12262396189658326210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30044120.post-76080343726843871792010-03-11T09:47:06.683-06:002010-03-11T09:47:06.683-06:00This is the most powerful series of posts I have e...This is the most powerful series of posts I have ever read! God bless you for putting into words what so many of us on this journey have felt. Amazing!!!<br />dawnDawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01198082344456465490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30044120.post-61000970723354987852010-03-10T23:26:14.756-06:002010-03-10T23:26:14.756-06:00I so enjoyed reading your story even through all t...I so enjoyed reading your story even through all the pain and tears. This is what we need to hear as adoptive parents and need to talk about. The truth. Because that is sometimes the way it goes...with infants and with older children. They grieve, we grieve, and that is a normal thing to happen. Not always what we want to happen but sometimes that is how it is. Thank you for sharing your story. Melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02821737661732142946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30044120.post-38631611933937678522010-03-10T19:19:05.341-06:002010-03-10T19:19:05.341-06:00I am so glad I stumbled across your story. We hav...I am so glad I stumbled across your story. We have 2 adopted sons. The 1st went great, and we expected the same from the 2nd - it was not meant to be.<br /><br />The greatest blessing we received was a visit from our SW who said - you are thinking you messed up your life with our 2nd son - we were! The transition was awful, and now, 6 years later all is better. We now wonder how the 3rd KOhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12721155067758257586noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30044120.post-65570890898754421262010-03-10T16:10:08.635-06:002010-03-10T16:10:08.635-06:00I just wanted to save bravo for sharing your pain ...I just wanted to save bravo for sharing your pain and joy. So much of adoption is the waiting and wanting and when you have to adjust to this little being it is not easy for either of you. We have all had diffuculties with are children and by sharing the good and bad it makes adoption more real for everyone. The adoption community is so wonderful and will be there to prop you up when you feel Becky and Nainghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17898009938333646106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30044120.post-66795701248969026052010-03-10T15:58:47.645-06:002010-03-10T15:58:47.645-06:00What an amazing post--so glad I found your blog fr...What an amazing post--so glad I found your blog from someone else's blog today. As we prepare to travel to bring our daughter home (soon, hopefully), I will remember this post and try to keep my expectations where they should be. Blessings to you-- KellyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04910258636674801379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30044120.post-47039620981516449952010-03-10T13:38:49.616-06:002010-03-10T13:38:49.616-06:00What a wonerful post! Only if we were all prepared...What a wonerful post! Only if we were all prepared for the reality of this process!<br />Our first adoption was defintely the honeymoon phase while in country. I was totally unprepared for the reality of arriving home and going back to real life. I think with having had this exsperience I am preparing myself differently for our next daughters arrival.<br />Thank you so much for putting yourself Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01791894342071382936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30044120.post-47031631308107781822010-03-10T11:50:33.892-06:002010-03-10T11:50:33.892-06:00"I waited a long time for you..."
That&..."I waited a long time for you..."<br /><br />That's when I started sobbing. I'm so happy for all you. You AMAZE me. <br /><br />xoxoblissfully caffeinatedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00857689482419899398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30044120.post-47849583199195157022010-03-10T11:48:12.042-06:002010-03-10T11:48:12.042-06:00"But there is something to say for the pain a..."But there is something to say for the pain and how it carves you differently than joy does."...There is so much truth to that statement. I can relate on so many levels and I appreciate your expression of your process. Our road was very similar. It was about 2 months of rough stuff - zombie stage alternated with screaming- when we got home. It's so good that you are writing about itDan, Misty & Asharhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13187688477484395321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30044120.post-27110220096591032312010-03-10T10:50:13.825-06:002010-03-10T10:50:13.825-06:00Hi there,
I found ya through Baker's Sweets. ...Hi there,<br /><br />I found ya through Baker's Sweets. I LOVE Nicole at Baker's Sweets because she helped me by posting her bonding/attachment issues with her son Luke and I found myself in the same boat when we brought our Linzhi home at age 2 1/2 in November 2007.(she loved daddy instantly, me...not so much) The journey was up and down for a good 6 months...I would do it again in a living4him5https://www.blogger.com/profile/06409446148184863139noreply@blogger.com